By Uko Destiny
From a busy schedule to long distance, there are many different factors that can douse the initial spark, cause gradual disinterest and send a relationship downhill.
To avoid this pitfall, we’ve curated several tips to sustain the fire in your love.
Schedule regular dates: Relationships typically begin with dates. What happened to your date life now? Are dates only meant as a prerequisite for introduction? Dates should be observed before and even more, during relationships. This could help you two “reintroduce” yourselves all the time thereby keeping it new.
Random surprises: One love language that is common to all is surprises and thoughtful gestures. Constantly think of ways to make your partner happy. Think of the things he/she loves to eat, wear etc and without raising an alarm or giving prior notice, bring it to them! The thoughtfulness will keep you busy and aware that you are in an ongoing relationship.
Prioritize Quality time: Create exclusive time to spend with your partner. Giving excuses for not having time for your partner will only bring the relationship crumbling down. If your schedule is very tight, you both can pick a day in the week when you both will be free (For most people Sunday) and have a heart to heart chatter and exclusive fun. This could be physically (More recommended) or online
Give your partner some space: Inasmuch as spending quality time and being in communication with our partners are encouraged, doing so without borders could lead to loss of interest in the long run. There’s attraction in things that appear new and scarce. Renew the feeling of love in your partner when you make them miss/ think about you by giving a healthy level of space to your partner. Being overly available could lead to redundancy.
Try new things together: Fulfill everything in your bucket list and more with your partner. Try new eateries, cinemas, countries, airlines, food, drinks etc
Little drops of physical affection: It’s not enough to love your partner in your mind. Outward expression and show of the word “ I love you” is more appreciated than allowing assumptions. Let your partner always be in the know by frequent and steady physical assurances like maintaining eye contacts, holding/ touching palms, Being very observant about your partner’s mood and feelings
Random remembrance of past events: This subconsciously reminds the both of you of how far you have gone and places a silent resolution to continue well into the future. This will cause a sense of true belonging to each other’s past, present and future.
Forgiveness/Tolerance: You must sign a contract with forgiveness before delving into a relationship because your partner will definitely offend or upset you and you must learn to manage that if you two must go far. Breaking up or falling apart after every understanding shows no sign of longevity.
Conclusion
Relationships require patience, high-level intellectual input and creativity. This ensures that you are actively working mentally and physically round the clock. It is not a part-time job, but a full-time employment. You are in a relationship with your partner whether he/she is physically present or not. The crux of any relationship is the underground resolution to remain in it for a long time (forever preferably).
To maintain a strong and lasting relationship, it's important to address factors like busy schedules and long distances that can diminish initial interest. Regular dates are essential throughout the relationship to keep it fresh and engaging. Random surprises and thoughtful gestures show care and consideration, making your partner feel valued. Prioritizing quality time together, even if schedules are tight, reinforces the connection, while also allowing space can prevent complacency and foster attraction.
Engaging in new experiences together, such as exploring new places and activities, helps in bonding. Expressing physical affection and reminiscing about shared past experiences reinforces emotional connections. Forgiveness and tolerance are crucial, as misunderstandings are inevitable, and the ability to manage them is a sign of commitment.
Overall, relationships demand patience, creativity, and consistent effort, similar to full-time employment, and the commitment to stay together through challenges ensures longevity and depth in the partnership.
